Meeting women online needs a different level of game than chatting them in bars. I won’t say it’s easy or hard because it varies from one man to another.
A Guy with good social skills will prefer a venue where he can show off his skills. On the opposite, a gym dude will vouch for Tinder because, well..it’s all about the looks. Or isn’t it?
No, it’s not.
You won’t succeed with women unless you learn how to be fun over text. Women crave emotional stimulation, and if you can’t supply them with the mighty dopamine, they’ll next you for a guy who can.
Good text is the foundational glue that holds everything together..
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Then you’re in the right place. Our team of elite dating coaches put down a series of texting guides to teach you how to attract women over the phone.
No lip service, just results. And in today’s guide, I will show you how to ask a girl for her number online without fail.
How To Ask a Girl for Her Number Online
You go to McDonald’s, order a Big Mac, two cheeseburgers and bag of fries, then sit down to eat.
What you gonna do next?
No, not soda, you already had that. The next expected move will be washing your hands. After all, your mouth is dirty, hands are greasy and you got lettuce between your teeth.
Same thing when you ask a girl for her phone number online (and offline).
You had a good time, you like how she looks, and she thinks you’re funny and confident…Now, what’s the one thing that makes sense to both of you?
Exchange numbers for another round of chat, or a potential date.
If you don’t get anything of what I’m saying, you have to get this concept:
Getting the girl’s number should be the result of you and her having fun…Without fun, there’s no phone number.
FUN, remember the word.
You can talk all you want, compliment her looks, and ask how her day went by. But unless you stimulate her emotions, and build fun, you won’t get a girl’s number.
How to design a fun conversation so you can ask for the girl's number with confidence
The shift from boring to fun takes effort, so get ready to smash your plateaus today.
Before you even consider asking for her number, there are a few things that you need to do first.
Since you shouldn’t lift weights without warming up your muscles to avoid injury, similarly, you shouldn’t ask for her number without warming her up to you first.
Otherwise you’d just be gambling.
Why gamble, when you can increase your chances of success dramatically?
Firstly, you need to present yourself well.
Your pictures on your dating profile are the first thing she will look at when you send her that first message, or when she stumbles upon your profile.
Ensure that they are your best pictures.
If possible, you should choose a professionally taken picture as your main photo.
If you don’t have any professional pictures, you should consider making a small investment.
Quality pictures will boost your online dating success, so never overlook the importance of having good photos.
Bonus points if you have pictures of yourself in exotic locations or in fascinating circumstances.
For instance, if you’re able to display a picture where you’re crouched alongside a tiger in a zoo in Thailand, you’ll be much more likely to receive first messages from women.
A man in an exotic location and in a unique environment will instantly capture the attention of an attractive woman.
Moreover, when it comes to your profile details, know that less is more.
Refrain from filling out every little detail on your profile.
More importantly, avoid long-winded profile descriptions.
It’s better to keep it short and interesting.
In addition, you should consider adding a couple of inches to your height on your profile.
While a man’s height is never a deal breaker when he’s confident in his own shoes, it would benefit you to embellish your features.
If you stand 5’8 when you’re barefoot for instance, you could list yourself as 5’11 on your profile.
You’re going to be wearing shoes (or boots) anyways if you end up meeting her, so she won’t know the difference.
While you may not be comfortable with a minor lie, consider that most (if not all) women will lie or have lied about their age at some point in time.
You probably will do or have done the same as well. So don’t sweat it.
Now, let’s move on to a more interesting topic.
Establish a Positive Vibe
If you’ve been wondering about how to ask a girl for her number online, let’s get into some finer details.
While it’s important to present yourself well as we’ve just discussed, it’s also crucial to establish a positive vibe in your online conversations.
For the time being, she is limited in her ways of getting to know you.
For now, you and her will have to deal with words on a screen as a means of learning about each other.
But that doesn’t mean that you can’t establish a great vibe between you.
In fact, it’s essential to establish a positive vibe if you’re to get her number.
Why would she feel the need to give out her digits to someone she doesn’t feel a connection with?
Would you give out your number to a girl that doesn’t interest you–hoping to get to know more about her?
The same principle applies.
So you must create a mutual vibe that furthers your interaction.
It shouldn't be based on cheesy pickup lines or generic compliments. Instead, you should show her a hint of your personality.
A vibe that compels her to invest in you.
With her emotional investment, getting her number will be easy.
And once you get her number, you can start planning how to ask her out for a first date.
But of course, before you get to that point you need to get her number first.
So let’s focus on vibe.
Throughout your conversations, you should look for topics that incite mutual excitement.
For instance, you could ask her if she works out.
If she says yes, ask her about her workout routine.
Say that you’re looking for new ways to exercise and challenge your body, so you’d like to hear about her training plan.
Even if you’re not too passionate about training, if you can tell that she is, it pays to talk more about the subject.
Let her know that while you’re not yet experienced, you love to workout and see improvements in your physique and athletic performance.
She will feel the same way if she dedicates herself to an athletic lifestyle.
And just like that, you will further your connection.
Of course this is simply an example.
You can apply this principle to all sorts of subjects; so don’t think that you have to necessarily ask her about her fitness regimen.
You could ask her if she plays sports, suggesting that you’re looking for a new sport to get into.
You could ask her if she reads consistently.
Ask her about her favorite novels–say that you’re looking to pick up some new page-turners.
Essentially, you should find common ground with her so that she feels there could be more than just a physical connection between you.
While opposites do attract, the “birds of a feather flock together” idiom does certainly apply here.
So talk about some exciting topics, and don’t be afraid to experiment with different subjects.
For example, asking her what she does for fun on her weekends is a great question, because it gives you yet another opportunity to relate to her.
If she tells you that she’s usually out on Saturday nights, well guess what–you’re also usually out on the town on Saturdays.
If she says she prefers to take it easy on the weekends by going to a coffee shop early on Sunday mornings to relax, tell her that you enjoy doing the same.
Questions such as these will also shed light on future date opportunities with her.
Perhaps you’ll be taking her out the following Saturday night.
Or maybe she'll say no. And that's okay because it's just part of the dating game.
Only time will tell.
So before you ask for her number, don’t forget the importance of establishing a positive vibe.
It will facilitate your efforts now and later in your quest to take her out on a first date.
Before Asking for Her Number, Build Comfort & Rapport
We’re just about to breakdown how to ask a girl for her number online.
But beforehand, we must briefly mention the role of comfort and rapport in helping you succeed.
Comfort and rapport are the final pieces to the puzzle.
With her interest followed by a great vibe between you, all you need to do is ensure that she feels comfortable with you.
You must build close rapport with her if you’re to guarantee that she gives you her phone number.
You see, while many girls in the modern day will give out their phone numbers with little inhibition, it doesn’t necessarily mean that she’s interested.
Many girls give out their numbers to receive attention or to simply be polite.
So while getting her number is essential, it is arguably more important to ensure that she will be receptive to you when you text her.
That’s why you need to make sure that she is highly interested in you.
With her interest, a positive vibe that’s mutual, and rapport, you have all of the necessary tools to succeed.
So, how do you build rapport?
While some of the techniques we’ve already discussed do initiate the process, there is one more thing you could do to enhance your connection.
Asking her personal questions is one way to do it, which we’ve touched upon already.
You must find topics that generate plenty of mutual interest, and focus your energy on them to create a lively conversation.
Moreover, here is one theme you could explore to build comfort and rapport.
Her background is a great topic to discuss.
You can either ask her about her descent or nationality, or you could just take a guess at her background.
For instance, if you think that she has European ancestry, you could take a wild guess at where she’s from.
To avoid focusing too much on a certain background, you could say that you think she’s half-Italian (as an example).
If her hair color is dirty blonde, you could guess that she’s half-Dutch.
Or if she has an exotic appearance and you can’t exactly pinpoint where she’s from, you could guess that she’s Eastern European.
These are all just simple examples.
The point here is to take a guess at her background, to hear her response.
She will either confirm or correct you, and at that point you could tell her what you think about that country or its people.
If she’s Italian, remark on how you love authentic Italian food–and not the kind that is sold in fast-food “Italian” restaurants.
If she’s Greek, tell her about how much you’d love to explore Greece, such as the site where the historical battle of Thermopylae took place.
As long as you engage in intriguing conversation regarding a subject that is personal to her, you’ll be heading in the right direction.
Lastly, while asking about her background is great, don’t be afraid to ask about her favorite pastimes or one childhood activity that she is highly nostalgic about.
The latter provides for a very intriguing conversation–do don’t hesitate to try asking her for yourself.
In Conclusion – Asking for Her Number
By this point you have all you need to succeed when you ask for her number. Don't stress over it too much though because there are several different meanings for when she actually gives you the number.
To be most successful in your approach, it pays to do what we’ve just discussed. Show her you’re interesting, establish a positive vibe, and build comfort and rapport.
Finally, all that remains is your simple question.
Don’t overthink the process of asking for her number.
If everything between you has flowed smoothly up to this point, getting her number should be a natural progression, so don’t sweat it.
With that said, you may be interested in hearing about some proven examples regarding how to ask for her number through an online conversation.
So here are a few examples:
“You seem interesting. Why don’t we get to know each other better over text?”
“I have to go for now, but why don’t you leave me your number. I’ll send you a message and we can continue this elsewhere.”
“By the way, I think we should continue this conversation over text. It’s a lot more comfortable, don’t you think?”
We encourage you to experiment with these examples to discover which approach works best for you.
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