A lovely older lady has caught your eye, and now you’re wondering how to make a move on an older woman.
You might think she’s out of your league or question why an older woman would ever be interested in dating a younger guy like you.
You might usually be pretty confident, but her age and confidence are throwing you off.
It took you a while, but you’ve got women your own age and younger figured out. But you don’t know how to approach this new situation, and you don’t want to make a rookie mistake and ruin your chances.
If this sounds familiar, then this article was written for you.
How to Make a Move on an Older Woman
Attracting older women is not as difficult as it may first appear.
Back when you were a teenager, you might have felt that attracting girls who were older than you was close to impossible.
But as you grew older, you probably found it was easier than you imagined it would be.
That’s because the older you get, the less age matters. Once you hit your twenties and beyond, age becomes less and less significant in relationships, until it’s basically redundant.
Even if you’ve never approached or dated an older woman before, all you need to know are a few key but basic tips.
Some men see older women as a totally different species. But the reality is they’re still women, and they aren’t all that different from younger women. The main difference is they likely know what they want and don't want to waste any time on what they don’t want.
This is good news for you because it means they’re way less likely to play games. They will be more straightforward with you, so you won’t have to try (and inevitably fail) to read her mind.
Here’s what you need to be mindful of when thinking about making a move on an older woman.
Make sure she has noticed you
To give yourself the best chance of success, you need to first make sure she has noticed you. Search for some kind of sign that she wants you to make a move or curious about you.
If she’s showing you a bit of attention, then you’ll feel more confident about approaching her, and it’s more likely to go well.
So, how do you know if she’s noticed you? She’ll likely do a few of the following:
- Make eye contact
- Smile at you
- Stand near you or face her body towards you
- Flirt with you
- Strike up (or engages in) conversation with you
- Laugh at your jokes
Older women tend to be clearer and more forward with their intentions. So if she’s interested in you, she will probably display a few (or all) of the signs above.
This is your invitation to give her some signs back.
And if she hasn’t yet shown interest, why not be the one to strike up a conversation and see what happens?
Got your sign?
Well then, it’s time to make a move and ask her out.
And don’t procrastinate because older women won’t hang around waiting for you to find the courage to ask them out.
If you don’t act swiftly, she might lose interest or someone else will beat you to it.
How to make a move on an older woman during a date
Remember, she’s already on the date. That means you’ve done most of the hard work.
She said yes when she could’ve said, “I think we’re better as friends.”
That means she wants to get to know you better and see where this goes.
Older women don’t date just anyone. They’re much more selective than younger women because--like I mentioned--they have a much clearer idea of what they do and don’t want. You can put this down to years of experience, and being hurt in the past.
Always go for a cheek kiss, even if it’s the first time you meet each other.
And when you do, pull her in softly by the waist for a brief moment.
This is a great way to establish a warm precedent for your date.
Let’s say the date is going well and you want to move in for a kiss.
Try and establish a physical connection before leaping to a kiss. That means holding her hand, giving her a hug, or maybe gently placing your hand on the small of her back if you’re walking side by side.
If she shies away from you, then back off. But if she leans into this kind of physical touch, then that’s a good sign that you can go a little further and lean in for the kiss.
Don’t be afraid to take the lead here. It might be the twenty-first century, but most women still expect men to make the first move.
Mistakes to Avoid when Making a Move on an Older Woman
Mistakes are nothing to be ashamed of. This is how we learn and grow as human beings.
And we wouldn’t be able to appreciate success if we didn’t know what failure feels like.
So don’t beat yourself up if you say or do the wrong thing when it comes to anything in life. And that most certainly includes your love life.
That being said, there are some common mistakes you should know about, so you can avoid them when making a move on an older woman.
Don’t make a move too soon
While it’s important you don’t take too much time, it’s equally important not to rush things. Being too eager can make you seem desperate and/or creepy.
So, how do you strike a balance between the two?
Trust your instincts and get a feel of the situation.
Get to know her a little before rushing to ask her out. After all, you may find she’s not right for you and save yourself the energy.
Once you’re on the date, take time to build up the connection and comfort between the two of you.
Don’t be upset if she “rejects” you the first time
You’ll probably view her giving you the cheek when you go in for the kiss as rejection.
But it might not be.
Lots of women won’t kiss on a first date--even if they really like the person they’re with.
So what you perceive as a “no,” might just be a “not yet.”
Mention a second date and see if she is up for it.
If she says yes, that’s a strong indicator she wants to get to know you better first.
Don’t wait for an older woman to make a move
This is a mistake the majority of men have made at some point in their lives.
It’s true that older women will sometimes make a move on you.
But you shouldn’t always expect it to happen.
If you’re interested in her, then make it clear.
And That is How to Make a Move on an Older Woman
The men who appear to be uber-confident with women and can’t seem to put a foot wrong are usually the ones who’ve had the most practice.
They’ve put themselves out there again and again and faced rejection. But they did not let it hold them back in the future.
This is key when it comes to making a move on an older woman, and women in general.
The more you do it, the easier it will become and the more success you will have.
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